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  1. شكرا أخوي يمني ابرود على التدوينة
    لكن اسمح لي بالمداخلة
    العنوان كان لطيف
    بس اظن ان النمطية برضو تنفع تكون تعميم على التدوينة stereotype
    أنا أرى عدة صور نمطية سلبية في تدوينك مرة انت تمارسها ومرة تمارس عليك وعلينا كيمنيين…و بعضها لمستها في تغريداتك ..كمتابة لك

    *من ناحيتك:
    *النمطية في النظرة للخليجين …انت ركزت على العرب الخليجين مع انه فيه عرب اخرين ويمكن يمنيين والعبرة ليست هنا العبرة في انه امر مشين اقتراف اي مسلم له…..مع انه اكد لك ان فيه يمنيين بالبار!!
    ليس كل الخليجين كذلك فانا تربيت في الخليج وعشت عند ناس محافظين محترمين متواضعين…
    وذكرت في النهاية السعودي….وكأن كلهم نسخة من هذا الشخص..فهذه نمطية ومن غير العدل التعميم عل شعب فيه الطيب وفيه السيء وتستبق الاحداث بانها اخر مرة تشاهد سعودي…ما ادراك فقد تشاهد سعودي ولكن خارج الصورة اللي في عقلك.
    فانا مثلا لن اكون نمطية في الحكم على المصريين والمصريات بانهم كلهم يرتادون البارات وفتيات مراقص و…من تدوينتك
    *النمطية في الشكل لحية طويلة ولا حمرا ولا سبحة ولا لبس قصير…مع انها سنة لطيفة بس يؤسفني انه هالايام كل من يتعامل بالمنظر من باب “سنة الرسول” فهم بعيدين كل البعد عن الدين ولم تعد تنطوي حيلة التمظهر هذه علينا…
    فهل يمكن ان تثق بكل الملتحيين “بالنمطية”..؟؟؟هل كل ملتحي متدين ؟مسلم حق؟؟ لم يعد يمكننا الحكم كذلك..”لم تعد معيار”

    *اسمح لي ان امارس النمطية عليك”بيونهم واسلوبهم”:أنت عربي وببلد اجنبي ..معقولة ولا مرة رحت بار ؟؟؟ولا عندك صديقة؟؟مستحيل !!!!
    نمطية اجنبي لازم تسوي كذا ا

    *النمطية الممارسة علينا:
    شعب متخلف فقير وجاهل من دولة فقيرة ,اذا المفروض نكون غير متعلمين وفقراء وشعث غبر حتى في الغربة..”الحكم على المناظر” وبس وكلنا نعاني من هذه النظرة وللاسف لان من يحكم علينا يحكم من زاويته النمطية السلبية والناقصة..وهذا غير عادل ابدا وان كان فينا فقراء ومظاهر شاحبة اين المشكلة؟

    النمطية تدمر صاحبها قبل اي شيء اخر..اذا ماعطينا انفسنا فرصة لمراجعة افكارنا وخلقنا صورة نمطية غير قابلة للتغير…ماالفائدة اذا؟؟
    فمثلا..هل تعتقد ان مسيحي او يهودي او من اي دين اخر ممكن يصبح مسلم او يحترم المسلمين والعرب ويتسامح معهم اذا كان واضع صورة نمطية غبية عن المسلمين كارهابيين مثلا,,,متخلفين..نصريين؟؟هل تحب ان ينظر اليك هكذا وانت ببلادهم؟ويحكموا على بالتعميم هذا؟
    اذا كنا ننظر للناس بنمطية فعلينا ان لا نتذمر اذا من نفس النظرة والنمطي اتجاهنا….فكلنا سواء

    • Salam Safia,

      I don’t have an arabic keyboard so I am replying in English as its easier. I am assuming your english is good as you follow my blog. First of all thank you for following and for the feedback which I appreciate very much. I will be honest and upfront. Sterotyping and prejudice. We all know is wrong but we all use it and resort to it far more than we would like to admit. The problem is how much someone is aware of it and how much we act on it. I can say for example. The average english person is taller than the average yemeni.. would I be correct 100% of the time? No. Would I be correct most of the time? Yes. Now if I take a stereotype like this and believe in it 100% of the time I will find myself in error quite a lot. Now lets take another stereotype, a less innocent one and say: Most english people are happy to form a queue when waiting for a service because its the most efficient, considerate, fairest way to function in a particular scenario. Most Yemenis form a crowd and the most persistent, and maybe aggressive one gets ahead.. This is a stereotype as well. How true one finds it is up to the observer. My experience tells me its very very true. But will every english person stand in line? Does every Yemeni not understand the concept of waiting in turn? of course not, but in general, that is my observation.

      So far these are harmless examples. You mentioned the Gulf Arabs and a I have to say that as a general concept, I am not a fan of Gulf Arabs. In particular the Saudis. If you have been following my entries, you would have an idea why. I think their net contribution to the Middle East has overall been a negative one and in Yemen, has been probably the most unislamic and the most unbrotherly of conducts. I do not like the direction that their own culture is going, I do not like their double standards, I could go on and on and on.. suffice to say: I am not a fan. The focus being on Saudi Arabia in particular. This naturally means that I will focus on their hypocrisy. Of course.

      The other point, which is the most important one is this: As a Yemeni, and an Arab, and a Muslim who has been living most of his life in the West (more than 70% of my life) I have realised that I have looked at many things from a western perspective so I have picked up on stereoyptes consciously and subconsciously on lots of things including Islam, Muslims, Arabs, and the Middle East. These things happen whether one likes it or not: When you live in a culture that keeps telling you that Muslims/Arabs treat their women as second class citizens. or that Most Arabs hate the West, etc etc. EVEN IF YOU ARE AWARE THAT THIS IS A STEREOTYPE it has a way of getting into your psychology. If you read my entry closely you will see that I was making fun of my own westernised view of the middle east. So this entry is very much aimed at myself as I am discovering my own stereoytpes that I picked up from living in the West. And there will be a lot more stereotypes for me to discover. My style of looking at these issues is NOT to be a doctor about it and be prescriptive. I dont tell people what to think. I write what I think. I write what I experience and I let others make their own conclusions. But I think you missed my point because their is a lot of irony and self irony in this entry.

      My final point is while stereotypes are unfair, they are also useful. They are a good indicator. A useful bit of information..So when I last travelled in Yemen and I hear persistent stories of Saudis holidaying in Yemen for sex purposes, and to marry very young, very poor Yemeni girls, and then disappearing after they have had their ‘fun’ , am I supposed to sit there and say: Nah. its just a stereotype. theyre not all bad. And if this reputation is repeated multiple times from various sources, is it still just a stereotype that I better not talk about or endorse? Stereotypes are also a very human thing to do. the question is if the holder of that stereotype human enough to keep that in mind. that it is, just, after all, a stereotype. Woupld I make friends with a Saudi, or an Israeli, or an American: Of course I would if they are worth knowing.

      • Salam dear brother,

        Actually I don’t follow all your entries yet, but The Bed Time story and an entry about Qat took my attention. But of course like it,,and I hope to have more time to “hang out’ here and n other yemmeni blogs. At the end every one has his own views.

        It is not about beeing fan of bthis or that OR in love with these those..as you mentioned there is own experience and observation,,but at the end we can’t have an overall judgment (All Yemeni, All Saudi, All christains….).
        It looks like closing our eyes by “rag” and saying I’m not able to see anything . Of corese we’ll never see anything.!!!!

        “About Net contribtion” Yesterday, I caught a saudi guy, seemed he didn’t like yemeni people at all  n we had argument, but as long as he wasn’t polite I couldn’t waste my time discussing him.
        2 months ago there was a hash ta g on twitter “a call for yemeni…get out from KSA), was tweeted by a man supposed to be cultured. Tracking the tweets I found people appeared that they are suffering from insanity “recoganize that from the way explaining ther points”. On the other hand there were people whom we should respect their politeness, regardless of their point, whether we agree with each other or not. IT IS ALL ABOUT THE WAY-SENSE OF DECORUM.

        Each culture has this kind of SSTEREOTYPE toward any foreign culture, specially Islamic and Arabic culture, because we are iin the spotlight.
        Most of gulf arabs don’t know about Yemen as much aswe know about their countries, simply most of us are living here. I still remember my colleagues who visited Yemen in GulF Cup Nations maybe 2010. They were glad though they hisitated firstly before travelling.
        Yemen is incredible…..,I didn’t imagine it likes that…………,it is different than Gluf area……,yo think that you are in an old museum………,people are kind and simple…..every thing is different,the food the weather,the women,,,,,,every smmer I’ll be there…I’ll invest my money there,,,so on….At the first, I was not pleased abot GCN to take place in Yemen. Then,I figured out it was a chance for Khaliji people to be too close to know more aboutYemen.
        You have been living abroad most of your life “same as me”, it is normal to think from western perspective. As long as you know your islamic n arabic culture, you will be in middle able to see thing from different aspects unlike western people….”take the advantage of that”
        Masha allah find you speak local yemeni better than me  usaully not speak Hadrami.

        We have as well our STEREOTYPE and it might be kind of experience, on Americans, british, the western people…They are capitalists, with yellow smile, double standards, stick and carrot approach, imperialists, political interference, the heads of troubles.
        There is justice, but applied on their nations only.

        For them Arabs mean, oil, tent, desert, bunch of stupid bedouins…….

        For instance, I’m not in love with Palestinians and Egyptians, it almost previous experiences and can see it till now in daily life. Specially if they know that I am Yemeni, things will go to the worst. But in the same time I meet nice people, so what I need to do is to change my mind, rather than creating bad Stereotype of them.
        As Bernad shaw said if you coulldn’t change your minds and ideas, will not ba able to CHANGE any thing- at all.

        We both have things in common, we are Yemeni Abroad…..found himself away from home…grew up somewhere else…are unhappy how policy affects our country negatively.

        I got your view very well -dear brother, and respect it.
        We are new generation I like to see things from my own perspective not from my father’s view. I said my father because he has the same point as you about Saudi.

        Sorry for my long feedback “comment”, it is almost an essay not a comment. 🙂

      • Speaking of saudis, yesterday I got a comment who saw my blog post which had the cartoon video i drew about how i see the relationship between KSA and Yemen and how basically I see their role as a disgusting one in Yemen. So he leaves a comment saying Kus Umak ya Yemeni this and that, and how yemenis are ungrateful etc etc etc.. Now do I care if there are good saudis? no not really.. being good isn’t something to be praised about, its something you should be. It’s the assholes like the one that left the comment, and the assholes who come to yemen to play with vulnerable young girls and their families, and assholes who give out aid making sure they are filmed as they make the Yemenis thank them over and over, and the assholes who make films that make fun of Yemenis and post it on Youtube, and most of all the saudi royal family who have all our tribal leaders and politicians in their bribery pocket. Thats the Saudis I’m interested in. We shouldn’t give Saudis an easy time. If they can’t appreciate and respect that they have Mecca in their borders and that makes it incumbent on themselves to be extra cautious about everything they do in their treatment of others. and if generalising and pointing out their hypocritical existence is the way to do it, then I will.. no problems.

  2. “Sometimes, the way we are treating the errors, is more fatal than the wrong itself”.

    In this case and from your perspective, we can imagine how things could be,,,if we treat americans, british, chinese people, russians…in your way!!!!!! ” if generalising and pointing out their hypocritical existence is the way to do it, then I will”.
    No problems,,,,???I don’t think so.

    • We all have filters. It is part of what makes us human. We all, to different levels, have these filters that produce these generalisations. That includes you and me. Whether its right or wrong is another question.. But we all have it. The question is if a person is aware of it or not

  3. I really had fun reading this!! You are just good 🙂 keep doing what you’re doing !!

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